A: To get what I want and need, I have put my emotions onto others thinking that if they only knew how I felt, they would understand and bend to my needs. This was me trying to control things passive-aggressively. I didn’t even know I was doing it.
A better way to accomplish getting what I need from others would be to use interpersonal effectiveness skills and not manipulate them with my emotions. It’s not anyone’s responsibility to take care of me, nor does anyone owe me anything. So the best I can do is be honest, assertive, and skillful and make sure to express what I need to others, because they can’t read my mind - and if they don’t give me what I ask for I need to accept that and move on. More importantly, I need to make sure I meet my own needs myself, as its my responsibility to do so.