A: I came to Al-Anon because my father's downward spiral into alcholism was effecting me in bad ways - I needed help dealing with it, so Jodie (friend) brought me to a meeting.
I hoped I'd find out helpful tips on how to help the alcoholic stop drinking.
My expectations are vastly different - I learned quickly that Al-Anon helps you help yourself, not the other person.
I came back to Al-Anon because my relationship with Brian effects me in the same way that an alcoholic would and it stood to reason that the same program would help for this too. I was right. But I don't expect to get as much help out of it because Brian isn't an alcoholic, he has ADD so I can't share as everything at meetings and I probably can't get a sponsor.